Something happened on plurk that rattled the community. It’s about somebody calling herself LillyAnn, who is supposedly suffering from lupus. One day her supposed 17 year old daughter Gabi posts using LillyAnn’s account saying LillyAnn has been taken to a hospital, can’t pay for dialysis, claims they need money to save her, sets up Chipin site, as well as gets “donations” through PayPal.
When I was first introduced to this plurk thread created by LillyAnn’s supposed daughter Gabi, I couldn’t believe what I was reading, which at the time consisted of a few hundred replies already, all of which in support of Gabi and LillyAnn, trying to help Gabi raise money and some even already sending them money through PayPal. I didn’t know how I should react, feeling like a bad person because, for me at least, the whole thing screamed scam and fraud, but at the same time I knew I was a little prejudiced. The prejudice I had was that from the very first time I looked at LillyAnn’s profile, I decided she was phony. The picture looked phony and her plurks read phony. I don’t know why, I took instant dislike for this person and never befriended her in spite of her name popping up on my other friends’ plurks. I know that some people would say it’s not right to judge people in this fashion without trying to get to know the person. But honestly? My gut feelings about people have seldom been wrong and with LillyAnn’s plurk profile, it was just too strong a feeling to ignore.
Now as horrified as I was to read all the innocent people trying to help, sending money, putting Chipin site widget on their sites, and so on, it was just too unbelievable for me that nobody bothered to check even a shred of evidence that this person was indeed sick and in need of help, I thought maybe they already know this person in real life or have known this person long enough. Being new to this kind of social media, and seeing all these people with established online presence who have been members of numerous social media sites, a part of me said they must certainly know what they were doing. Until somebody started to point out the discrepancies in the story and asked for verifiable information.
Having been a member of several online message boards, a few of them being animal rescue/welfare forums, I have seen numerous pleas and sob stories and sad cases people post to get monetary help. If it’s a legitimate cry for help, the one who makes the plea usually is very forthcoming with verifiable information. Some people are new to asking for help and do not provide detailed information, but after others ask for proof, they are more than happy to provide any info that would get them the help they need. For instance, for a dog they just rescued whose leg needs to be amputated to save his life, people ask for the vet’s info, address and telephone number to verify the story, which is duly provided instantly unless one is trying to scam some money off others. In LillyAnn’s case, none was forthcoming even after people asked for it repeatedly.
When the plurk response count on this thread reached several hundred without any real answers, people had done all kinds of research to find out that LillyAnn’s extensive web presence itself was phony, most of her articles plagiarized, and the character “LillyAnn” also made up. When the response count climbed over a thousand, most people were convinced, presented with overwhelming evidences, that they had been taken for a ride by a fraud who elaborately built his/her web presence over the years mostly by plagiarism, and making online friends on numerous social media sites. However, something made me utterly discombobulated; there were still people insisting that they still support LillyAnn and they “will not judge”, “postpone judgment”, “choose to believe in goodness in people”, “choose to see the good”, and so forth, et cetera, et cetera!!!! And they are intelligent people, too. Of course there are some who hope against hope because they truly can’t take it, but in most part the way I took them is quite different; “will not admit I was wrong”, “I can’t be totally wrong”, “choose to not admit I was wrong”, “choose to ignore all the evidence provided just because I don’t like being wrong and won’t admit it.”
My friends and I can’t stop being amazed by people who still support Bush, not to mention the wars, the ones who would not concede that this country is in deep shit. We often wondered what kind of people are these people? How can they not see? What are their reasoning processes? Well, now we know. They just don’t want to admit it. They choose to look the other way because otherwise they just have to say “I was wrong”.
As for me? A natural born skeptic and cynic? I will continue to make decisions on who I want to be friends with or not mostly based on my gut feeling, thank you very much.



Yeah, I pretty much felt the Lily Ann thing was a scam, but didn’t feel like getting into it with anyone. I just figured I’d say “best luck” and be done with it.
It’s not that I’m not trusting, but…..ok, it’s that I’m not trusting. I need evidence before helping someone, and this matter smelled of scam since the beginning.
But, I kinda started to doubt myself when people I think of as good plurkers were dropping links to Lily Ann. And I thought they wouldn’t do it unless they had done the leg work.
Guess not.
This was my first real experience with this sort of long-term scam and I fell for it. Despite a few questions, here was a woman with whom I’d been talking for months, who had a fully developed online personality, and I’d seen her situation develop over time. I had no experience with these things, didn’t know what kind of proof to ask for or how to obtain any. In addition, as someone dealing with a complicated medical condition, I just let my sympathy overwhelm my good judgment. It was a good scam, because it got to a point where it felt like we had to act quickly if we were going to help, and I decided I would prefer to have been scammed than to have it all be true and I did not help. So, no regrets, except now I don’t have the money to help someone legitimately in need. Boy, did I learn a lesson.
What a great post! I guess in my gut I knew it was a scam as well, but didn’t want to believe someone would do that (yes she was on my friend list.) I know that sounds kind of crazy coming from a cynical TV new journalist. Of course, I never give people money unless it’s a legitimate charity.
I can’t believe what this world is coming to. It sucks that people can take others for a ride like that.
Wow, I’ve missed a lot on Plurk. It sucks that people will stoop to that kind of level.
That is awful.
I’ve missed a lot too.
I’m a cynic too yoon =P
I was wondering about that plurk when I saw it. My policy is to never give money to panhandlers whatever the reason, sounds harsh, but saves me from agonising over it.
DingoBarbie
Wow, looks like I’ve missed a lot. Karma will come back to them. Lupus is nothing to joke about.
I thought it was strange that while that user was active we discussed some topics via Plurk and occasionally mentioned how great a Plurk meet-up in Chicago would be. However, when I agreed and suggested to plan a time and place, the conversation would stop…dead. Right there…not another word. Every time I called the bluff, it was all silence. This person was either not in Chicago or afraid to actually meet any Plurk-friends, and was probably astonished to learn that I live there and was serious.
I stayed out of that fiasco…
Ten years ago, when the idea of server and data sharing was a brand-new concept to people, we were some of the first ones in our circle of life to warn, “Don’t believe everything you’re going to see on here in the future.” We ran a BBS starting in the early 80’s and could tell back then that the masking of an identity behind a monitor would open up a whole new can of worms. We’ve never let our guard down, but have carefully been able to enjoy what the internet does have to offer. It’s not any more or less safer today…Don’t be stupid; know where you’re going and what the risks are. Humans will always have their emotional needs and bonds, just don’t let them cloud our judgment.
Good luck to everyone touched by this occurrence…
I was uber-cynical about this LilyAnn thing too. Trust your instincts and never put too much trust in people, especially those you haven’t laid eyes on.